Respect

As a mother I don't seem to get much respect.  My kids lately have not been very respectful to me.  They talk back, they have attitudes, they tell me that they don't like me, they don't listen...I could go on and on.  I feel like I address this disrespect when it happens with the appropriate time out or privileges taken away, but sometime I just feel like it is not getter any better.
I feel like I am just the "mom" which means that I am the cook, housekeeper, maid, nanny, etc, but not someone who is to be treated as anything better then a servant.  Unfortunately sometimes even Tony makes me feel this way, disrespected.  I don't make the money, therefore I am not as valued as he is.  I just stay home with the kids...any loser could do that.  I feel like Tony gets to go off to work 12 hours a day where he has people tell him all the time how great of worker he is and how happy they are to have him there.  He gets lots of validations for all his hard work.  I don't get anything for all the hard work that I do.  No one is giving me any compliments on how well I do laundry or clean the kitchen.  No one is giving me a high five for bathing my children and brushing their teeth.  I don't get a raise at the end of year for all my hard work.  Now I don't need a medal or a big parade, but what I do need is respect.  Respect from my family.  Respect for being a stay-at-home mom and doing the best job I can to raise my kids and keep my house.  Respect for how I want my house and support to keep it that way.
Don't get me wrong, I like being a stay-at-home mom.  I like that I can raise my children and be here for them no matter what.  I love that I get to see them learn and discover the world.  I love my children and think that they are amazing and brilliant.  But where is the respect?  I would love it if my family would tell me that they thought that I was doing a good job.  That they liked how I kept the house clean and organized.  Hey, even a thank you for working so hard would be great.  I think that is all part of respect.  I don't think that I am asking for too much.